Today, I got stuck in the snow and my first instinct was to rev the engine. I had an expectation that the car would magically move forward. It didn’t. I could see the dry pavement just a foot away. So close, yet so far away.
The divorce process is much like being stuck in the snow. Divorce is something you just want to get done so you can move on, or get back together so it goes away. I would call this magical thinking. Bring yourself back to the reality of building a new life, as a single person. It is only when you have embraced your own individuality that you will be ready to enter into a new relationship. All of this takes time. In fact, being stuck for a while is normal, it is okay to just stand still and adjust to your new situation. There is an art to being alone and only when you’ve mastered your self will be truly ready for a new relationship. Relish this opportunity to reclaim your Self!
There are a ton of roadblocks or snow banks on divorce lane, especially with the court process. Patience is necessary to stay focused on the goal of negotiating an agreement that is in the best interest of any children and that both parties can live with. In most cases, the outcome is not what was planned for or what originally was designed. Eventually, you will be free of the snow bank, as you will of the marriage.
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