On the 33rd anniversary of a dear couple who is HAPPILY married, I asked what are your secrets?
1. Mutual respect for one another
Give your partner personal space, for example one may be an early riser so if you happen to wake early, give them space and stay out of the way, don’t start a serious conversation in that time. Or their special time is between 3 and 4 pm and you arrive home early, respect their space and quietly enter and wait until after 4 to engage.
Accept your partner for who they are and who they aren’t and love them NOW.
2. Share your needs with your partner
If someone doesn’t know your needs, how can they deliver what it is you want and expect in relationship? Let your need be known and then your partner will know how to please you.
3. Remember what attracted you in the first place
There was some facet of the other person that fascinated you in the beginning. Keep your focus on that asset as it is still there and revel in your brilliant choice.
4. Enjoy Togetherness
When you first dated there was special ways you connected. Keep sight of these magic moments and recreate them to add sparks to your relationship. For example, walking in the woods together is how many dates were spent. Now that you are married, remember to walk in the woods and re-ignite that spark.
5. Fulfill your partner’s sexual desires
When you are able, (and sometimes even when you don’t feel like it) deliver what your partner loves. CHOOSE to give the gift of this to your partner. It is a selfless act and shows you care about their happiness.
6. Compromise
A mutual concession to settle differences or a partial wavering of one’s principles allows the space for compromise. CHOOSE to just let go sometimes, in the spirit of the union. For example, the man preferred the bed to be made each day, it just pleased him when he came home. The woman made a habit of making the bed, just because, since she was the last one out in the morning, a simple compromise.
7. Share a common goal or dream
Act as comrades in obtaining mutually agreed upon milestones. Work together planning a future that breeds an environment of proceeding toward your dreams as a united team.
Remember to champion each other.
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