Judgements are easy to make. We profile people all the time. Judging other people may be something you do unconsciously. For example, the most noticeable being on how others look. Are they fat, thin, round, curvy, tall, short or whatever. Many of us weigh the physical attributes against our own. This would be considered a judgement based on a comparison.
Another more damaging judgement is the one of judging yourself. It may sound like this.
I should have …
I could have…
I would have…
You’ve heard it, shoulda, woulda, coulda. Telling yourself these statements and then ruminating on them is self defeating. It wastes time and energy. What is important is that all of these are in the past. You already made a choice. You decided to do something and you did it. What value is there in going over it again and again? It is already done. This is your inner critic speaking.
Try this gentle exercise when you notice the inner critic sitting on your shoulder. Say, “Wow, I hear you ruminating about ______. It’s time to quiet down now. I have made a choice to __________________. (fill in your new direction) and I know I am on the right path. Please encourage me and come along. Thank you.
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