You are never lost, just buried sometimes in the busyness of life. How do you find that lively, once happy, maybe even adventurous person inside?
Last weekend, I drove out to northern Minnesota to the lake to visit with Mary Jane and Jan, two girl friends that I hung around with from my early days out of high school. We were at each others’ weddings, and then drifted off into our own worlds, never living in the same towns. Over the years, we heard of each other and talked on occasion when babies were born, or other big life events occurred.
I marveled at how in an instant we had reconnected, like no time had even passed, even though it had been almost 20 years. It took all afternoon to go through all the marriages, divorces and places we had lived from Hawaii to Florida to Minnesota. We had to catch up on all the children, businesses or jobs, houses and people who had made impacts on our lives and on what brought us back together at the lake.
What amazed me is how comfortable I was, that feeling of being home, in your own skin. Reconnecting with your past can be so energizing. It gives you a chance to remember, from a youthful point of view some of your aspirations, dreams and ambitions. And really, those core ideas are a part of your foundation.
Along with divorce comes the opportunity to remember your foundation and reconnect with those from way back, maybe before the marriage. Take the time to revisit what you had hoped and planned for your life. A divorce can free you to reclaim who you have always wanted to be.
I drove the two hours home, refreshed, happy and energized to know I had connected to the real me. I felt the stirrings from youth of living a life of real freedom and knew that is exactly where I am today.
P.S. My son is away at camp for the month so it has given me the “extra” sense of freedom with no child responsibilities. Maybe that is what helped me truly let go?
MJ, Jan & LeAnn
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