Divorce is emotional for anyone and so much more when you are escaping an abusive relationship. The court system is not set up around these complexities and perpetuates the issues when it allows an abuser to get continuances over and over. It took four years to be set free financially within the court and an uncooperative party certainly adds volumes to the attorney fees.
Then when the parameters are set by the court, it is the abusive who refuse to operate under the guidelines. This creates more havoc with children and visitation. Again, the system doesn’t have much recourse for those who bend the stipulations. If you are in a situation with an abuser then be sure you are working with the domestic abuse advocates from your county. There are support groups, shelters and many resources for victims of abuse.
Nevertheless, freedom is available from domestic abuse for anyone who is willing to take the steps and find the resources to help. One great resource is http://saferelationshipsmagazine.com. This resource will help you determine if you are indeed in an abusive relationship and give you ideas of what to do to move forward.
Remember to have a safety plan for you and your children. The most difficult thing is to break free from patterns and the most violence occurs when a relationship is ending with an abuser. If fact, in divorce tempers flare and child exchanges are know to be catalysts for domestic violence incidences. Please be careful and use the resources available. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is 800-799-7233.
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